- Its been 2 years since i entered into a beautiful bond of marriage. We all envisage marriage as a fairy tale, all blossoming boisterous love from partner, we as a novice starts a relation portraying ourselves humongous amount of dreams but to be concrete its just the reflection of what we have been watching in movies. Reality is far beyond what we had figment. When we start to cohabit with our partners, then truly we get expose to there own selves , there good, bad areas, all there emotions .
Early Days of Marriage:-
Initial days of marriage seems amazing effervescent because you are trying to know your partner in and out . You try to control your partner so, u can boss them may be . We are me-focused at first hence we get into a lots of feuds because we are still trying to figure out our relationship and comprehending the other person. Feuds can be quite fiery and scary but that’s how it reacts when poles apart people meet there is friction on both side .
We are Human , the greatest god made creature is what Allah says in the Quran:-
Indeed, We created humans in the best form.
We are not animals who doesn’t know how to make use of one’s own self. We Masha’allah pretty well know how to manage things we are very well equipped with it. Its just we need to push our brain little to have that idea popped out. we need to work on everything , nothing in the world is called a free dinner, there is a cost for everything. So, Definitely mending a relation will cost you too.
Allow Relation sometime:-
Everything in the universe happens gradually, even the universe itself was created in 6 days as per Quran:-
Indeed your Lord is Allah Who created the heavens and the earth in six Days,1 then established Himself on the Throne. He makes the day and night overlap in rapid succession. He created the sun, the moon, and the stars—all subjected by His command. The creation and the command belong to Him ˹alone˺. Blessed is Allah—Lord of all worlds!
Give your self and your relation sometime, if you try to rush, relationship may break or you both will end up being irked with each other. Truly speaking where you are currently is where Allah has placed you. If we surrender ourselves and truly believes in preordainment life becomes easy in all aspects. Marriage is never a cake walk for anyone , never was it easy for our beloves Prophet Muhammad (SAW) may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him . He had hard time with other of his wives, but always hope for good from Allah. If you feel marriage or the partner is difficult to handle remember Allah has seen the capability in you to handle such marriage hence have dropped you here. Some Tips to improve your marriage if you are having hard times comprehending it:-
1.Do Not Compare:-
Do not compare your life with the life of social Media. truly its destructive. As ‘Aaidh Ibn Abdullah al- Qarni’ Well said in his book “Don’t be sad”Reel life is poles apart from real life. Something that is portrayed on facebook, instagram are the only edited part they want to show you. The pace you are growing just focus on that and the only person you compare yourself is you yourself